A recent post on Natalie Joos’ charming blog Tales of Endearment sparked much debate at Kirna Zabête. In “Skirting around the Issue,” Natalie details a first date that went badly after her dinner companion gave her much-labored-over outfit a negative review. Like Natalie, us gals here at KZ dress to impress our girlfriends. We decidedly do NOT dress for men. This isn’t a feminist stance, but a fashion one. Men are clueless when it comes to Christopher Kane, they lack Lanvin knowledge, are unaware of Jason Wu. We wear these favorite designers proudly for those moments when a fellow fashionista recognizes and gives props. But once in a while that treacherous and tricky event known as the “first date” arises, prompting many a fashion quandary, and often a full-on crisis. Below are some ideas the fashion forward gal can use for dressing for a casual-but-vague night out. I’d like to think this is still dressing for the occasion, not the man. And if he doesn’t like it, surely he’s not The One.
When a dress or skirt feels too effortful/poser, shorts can be a modern choice for a look that still gives serious leg. Seek formal fabrics like a woven or silk to keep it playful but polished– this is not an excuse to wear your old denim cutoffs. Add your favorite slouchy designer tee for a look that’s relaxed and comfy. Boys love that.
Our favorite scarf is a safety blanket, a shield against the world. You should have one that is luxuriously soft and generously sized, so that it may transition into a shawl should the temperature drop.
You gotta have some sparkle, but serious bling will intimidate. Keep it light by layering delicate pieces that enhance, not distract. You should be his only focus.
Unless a formal dinner is the plan, ditch the predictable date night clutch for a more action-y (no hands!) cross body bag.
When you’re unaware of the agenda, a sexy skin baring flat can be your friend. It seems counter-intuitive to forgo the expected stiletto, but you should be able to dart around the city with your guy, Roman Holiday-style, should the night lead to an impromptu adventure. Do a low heel if you need the extra height, but just remember stumbling over cobblestones after drinks in Meatpacking is never a good look.